Robert O'Connell

Robert O'Connell

Wednesday, November 13th, 1957 - Saturday, October 14th, 2023
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In Loving Memory of Robert M. O’Connell

It is with heavy hearts that we announce the passing of Robert M. O’Connell, a beloved husband, father, grandfather, brother, and friend. Robert peacefully departed this life on October 14, 2023, surrounded by his family.

Born in New Brunswick, NJ, Robert was a man of remarkable achievements. He earned a Bachelor of Arts in Labor Studies and Management from Rutgers University, paving the way for a successful career. As the retired Vice President and New York Metro Regional Manager in Corrugated Packaging, Robert’s dedication and passion left an indelible mark in his professional realm.

Robert’s love knew no bounds. He adored his wife Susan, whom he married in 1979, and cherished their life together in Monmouth Beach, NJ. Their union blessed them with two wonderful children, Kevin Brian O’Connell of Colts Neck, NJ, Michelle Erin O’Connell of Golden, CO, and one grandson, Liam Beckett O’Connell. His siblings Stephen, Tricia, and Ellen were bound by a deep familial connection.

A man of adventure and curiosity, Robert found solace in the outdoors. He shared his passion for nature with his family, exploring national parks, camping under the stars, and embarking on thrilling hikes. Whether skiing down snow-covered slopes, navigating waters on a boat, or marveling at the vastness of Alaska, Robert embraced every moment. He obtained a Master Captain license, a testament to his love for the sea and his tugboat Sea Turtle.

Robert was a visionary, unafraid of new experiences. He skydived, delved into the depths of the ocean through scuba diving, and constantly sought to expand his horizons. His love for reading, staying updated on world news, and embracing technology showcased his inquisitive mind.

A family man through and through, Robert valued traditions and eagerly anticipated gatherings during Thanksgiving and Christmas. Poker, Trivial Pursuit, and volleyball were some of his favorite games to play with family and friends. His warm smile and welcoming hand made ever moment shared with him memorable. He was an inspiration to his children, supporting their ambitions and introducing them to the wonders of the world.

In addition to his adventurous spirit, Robert was a dedicated health advocate, engaging in daily weight training at Pit Gym. He also dedicated his time to restoring nautical antiques, a testament to his love for maritime history.

In lieu of flowers, the family kindly requests donations in Robert’s honor to be made to the Cholangiocarcinoma Foundation at or to the Ocean Conservancy at

Robert M. O’Connell’s legacy lives on in the hearts of all who had the privilege of knowing him. His kindness, courage, and extraordinary zest for life will be deeply missed.

Robert will be reposing at Evergreen Memorial Funeral Home, 1735 Rt 35, Middletown, NJ on Thursday, October 19, 2023 from 10:00am-1:00pm. Repass lunch will be family only.
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    Thursday, October 19th, 2023 | 10:00am - 1:00pm
    Thursday, October 19th, 2023 10:00am - 1:00pm
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    1735 Rt 35
    MIDDLETOWN, NJ 07748
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    November 13, 1957 - October 14, 2023

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Katelyn ONeill

Posted at 09:40pm
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Michelle O’Connell

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Thank you all so much for your kind words and support during such a devastating loss.

Thank you all as well who could make it to his memorial to celebrate his life with us.

From your daughter:

I could say so many things about my Dad, but decided to condense my thoughts into ten things I learned from him.


I learned from you how to Gracious.
As most of you know, my Dad appreciated all the things he had in life and the things he worked very hard for. Beyond that though, he always made it a point to be humble and never flaunted his accomplishments or his prosperities. In fact, later in life, at one PM everyday, he said his gratitudes- his way of being thankful, for the big and the small.

I learned from you how to Apologize and how to Forgive.
As many of you also know, my Dad wore his heart on his sleeve. He felt things deeply and empathically, which are traits I inherited and would never change. At times however, emotions can be hard to navigate and apologizing when you know you are in the wrong or have hurt someone you love takes a lot of courage and something he was a good role model of. On the flip side, he went through life understanding the importance of forgiveness and often gave people second, third, and even fourth chances.

I learned from you how to be Generous.
I know you all know that my Dad was a pretty Generous guy. He opened his house to family, friends, neighbors, and even strangers at times and always had time to talk and listen. The more he learned through his life experiences, the more he shared, and he helped and mentored many of us through life’s difficult decisions and challenges. He also always gave generous gifts and often tipped his waiters and waitresses more than 20%.

I learned from you the importance of Inclusiveness.
On more than one occasion, my Dad (and Mom, as we can’t forget Mom in this one!) allowed me to bring a handful of my students, who were from all different countries and from all walks of life, to stay at their home for the weekend. Never meeting them before and not knowing much about their cultures, (and there must have been at least 10 of us one time), he and my Mom made them feel truly welcome. Feeling like you have a home away from home when you need it is something he gave to so many.

I learned from you how to be kind.
My Dad instilled in me the importance of saying good morning, goodnight, and acknowledging everyone in the room when you enter one. He was especially good at talking to anyone and everyone and didn’t hold grudges or make harsh judgements. He was always one to “kill people with kindness” and would spend just enough time to leave a good impression on whoever he ran into.

I learned from you how to be adventurous.
From his earliest days, my dad had a sense of adventure. He traveled all over the US and lots of different parts of the world and even after Kevin and I were born, we were a part of his adventures too. I’m so lucky to have experienced so much with him and his adventurous spirit is another thing that I inherited and something I am most grateful for.

I learned from you how to be fearless.
My Dad’s career was in Business Management, but he deeply understood the importance of creatives in the world. When I told him I wanted to be an artist and go to art school, he pushed me to go for my dreams no matter how hard he knew it might be. My passion for art has taken me all around the world and because of my Dad, I have no fear of going places on my own. He taught me to do what I love and to not be afraid.

I learned from you the importance of family.
Family was probably where my Dad showed his greatest pride and instilled in both my brother and I the importance of keeping strong familial bonds. Even though family can be hard to navigate at times, he was the core and the glue that held us all together.

I learned from you the power of music.
My Dad always had on his tunes, and I may have listened to the Allman Brother’s Eat a Peach album more than a thousand times. He passed down his love of music to me and we attended too many concerts together to even count. As most of you may not know, his and my moms first date was an Allman Brothers concert, and concerts are one thing I will miss not having him at most.

And most importantly, I learned from you how to have fun.
As most of you know, my Dad lived his life to the fullest and towards the end let me know he was leaving us with no regrets. He put FUN at the top of his list and no matter where he was or who he was with, always wanted to have a good time and share happy moments with those around him. His summer parties and travel adventures were some of the things he looked forward to most. He went to the depths of the oceans and jumped out of planes and was even one of the first ones to put in an order for a Tesla Cyber Truck, because why not?

His wishes for after his passing were for all of us to continue to live our lives to the fullest, have fun, and to celebrate him in whatever way makes us happy.

With that said, I hope we can all honor his wishes by doing just that.

I love you DAD.

You were a true character, a one-of-a-kind, and will be truly missed by us all.


Kevin OConnell

Posted at 08:45pm
Robert OConnell’s Eulogy
Ladies and gentlemen,

Thank you all for gathering here today. The warmth in this room is a testament to the extraordinary life lived by a remarkable man, my beloved Dad, affectionately known to Liam as Pa-pa.

Though Liam may not have had the chance to truly know his grandpa, through our shared stories and memories, we will ensure that the spirit of Robert O'Connell lives on, shaping Liam's understanding of a truly remarkable man.

I am deeply moved by Mom's unwavering strength these past weeks, as she cherishes the incredible life she shared with my father, rather than dwell on her loss. Her resilience is an inspiration, and I hope to draw courage from her example, supporting her whenever she needs me. Mom, your strength is a beacon of light, and I love you dearly.

Navigating the path ahead without my father's guiding hand will undoubtedly be more challenging. However, his timeless wisdom, urging me to 'always do the right thing' and 'strive to be a better man,' will resonate in my heart eternally. I find solace in the belief that he continues to guide me from above, as a steadfast lighthouse -guiding a ship through the sea of life.

Duty, decency, reliability, honour, dignity, and integrity : these are all qualities of strong character my father not only held in high regard, but practiced every day throughout this personal and professional life.

My Dad was hard working, compassionate towards everyone, and deserved the success and rich life he shared with us.  He taught me many things, but most importantly he gave me the ability to know that if you really put your mind to something, anything is possible, and to never be afraid of failure or taking a different path.

Dad was always busy – a man in constant motion – but never too busy to share his love of life with those around him. He taught me to love the outdoors. He loved landing the elusive ocean striper and fishing deep in the Canadian wilderness for walleye. He loved boating, becoming master captain and diver later in life, and eventually bought his dream boat, the SeaTurtle in his pursuit of happiness and adventure. The horizons he saw were bright and hopeful. He was genuinely an optimistic man, even as he battled rare disease after rare disease- that optimism guided us and made us believe anything was possible.
He even came skydiving for Michelle’s 30th birthday, which surprised many of us. But that was my Dad, always full of surprises.

As a child, I always looked forward to Dads friends coming over for a backyard picnic.  They would reminisce, tell stories of their youth, and every once in a while, usually after a few beers, they would forget I was in the room, and start to tell the un-edited versions of these stories.  I could always learn some new information about my Dad, and his wild side, if I stayed up late enough. Those stories
reminded me that no one has to be perfect and mistakes are eventually always
laughed at.
Crazy experiences etched in time as memories are stories to be shared and cherished.

My dad was the strongest person I ever met, and still is. He was the best example of a leader for my sister and I, we ever knew.
Before his death he quit drinking for over a decade and had gotten himself to the healthiest he ever was. Even after doctors pressured him to retire early, because they said he would be in a wheelchair from complications with Dish, he eventually relished in the fact he proved them all wrong and always shocked his doctors on follow up visits with his great mobility and strong core health.

He could relate to people from all walks of life. The deep love of culture my sister and I have comes from traveling as kids in a motorhome and moving across the country a few different times. New Experiences places and adventure were qualities of life my parents introduced us to at a young age and Dad helped make it all possible.

He was an empathetic man. He valued character over pedigree. He looked for the good in every person – and usually found it, even though he would say on occasion that he thought he was an introvert. He would talk to anyone anywhere like waiters or janitors- it didn’t matter -he always had an ear for someone willing to share their story.

In his Inaugural Address, the 41st President said: ‘We cannot only hope to leave our children a bigger car, and a bigger bank account. We must hope to give them a sense of what it means to be a loyal friend, a loving parent, and a citizen who leaves his home, neighborhood and town better than he found it. What do we want the men and women who know us to say when we are no longer there? That we were more driven to succeed than anyone around us? Or that we stopped to ask if a sick child had gotten better, and stayed an extra moment to trade a word of friendship?’
That was my dad always willing to share his time and hear your story.

In victory, Dad always shared credit. When he lost, he shouldered the blame, except maybe in poker when he would blame the dealer or even grandma a time or two.
He accepted failure as function of living a full life, but taught us never to be defined by failure. He showed us how setbacks can strengthen and teach more valuable lessons than winning ever would. Through my many failures, my Dad taught me, this it is a time to grow and mature, not to dwell on regret or make excuses. Always Keep moving forward and upward, he would often say.

He taught us what it means to be a wonderful father, grandfather, and husband. He was firm in his principles and supportive as we began to seek our own ways in life. He encouraged and comforted, but never steered our life directions, he just wanted us all to be happy.

We are sure going to miss my Dads humor, though sometimes dry, he always knew how to make people laugh. Even in hospice he would get a chuckle out of Beverly, making some dark joke about his condition or circumstance. He was always the life of the party.

As we go through life, we create ripples in the minds of those we know.
The ones we love, the lives we touch, the people we meet on the street. The impressions we leave behind are the evidence we existed.

When we die, these ripples radiate from the memories and stories of us told by those we leave behind.

Our existence is burned into human memory and recorded for as long as our people exist. Decades from now the effect we’ve had on the lives of others will still be felt. Centuries ahead in some small way the lives of our great great grandchildren will still be touched by our influence and choices.

As long as we tell our stories of fallen friends, and keep them in our memories they will never really die. This is how Liam will know and remember his Pa-Pa, with all our help sharing stories of all the good times.

The ripples made as Dad passed through our lives will continue to grow and touch others, because in many ways large and small he affected the way we live, the way we feel, and the way we think. He is not truly gone, so long as we remember.

Abraham Lincoln once said: ‘In the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.’

Soo please continue to share any story about my dad whenever you think of, or remember one. Death gives life meaning so the stories we share of those we’ve lost keep hope alive that none of us are ever forgotten.

I love you Dad, and I hope to be 1/2 the father to Liam that you are to me.
This is not and there will never be a goodbye, instead we will continue to honor your life and legacy, Through our stories
And you will live on as an inspiration to all those lucky enough to love you.
Through our tears, let us see the blessings of knowing you – a great and noble man, and the best father a son or daughter could have.

And finally, in our grief let us all smile, knowing you are now home… hugging Grandpa and together holding Grandma’s hand once again.

Your Neice Cheryl Ford

Posted at 07:10am
Dear Uncle Robert,
I will always cherish the memories of fun times in Breckenridge, CO and on the beach ❤️ Thank you for your hospitality and the fun parties at your house and for taking us on your boat. Love you and miss you forever 🙏✝️🕊️

Andrea Crowell

Posted at 01:35am
Dear Sue and family,
Todd shared the news with me about Bob’s passing. I want to express heartfelt condolences to all of you during this difficult time. Although many years have passed since we’ve seen each other, I will always remember our visits to your home, the meals we shared, and Bob’s quick wit and sense of humor! You both were always so kind to Margaret and Olivia and made us feel like family. My heart and prayers go out to you. Love, Andrea Crowell

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